Winning an argument with daughter is just about as difficult as teaching a new born algebra. A few weeks ago she was caught pointing at Tigger from Winnie the Pooh and shouting “Tigger is being stupid” and when she was confronted she argued that it was okay to say that word because SpongeBob Square Pants says it. She could have said far worse things but a 4 year old calling things stupid is unacceptable. Of course I never thought this was true because nine times out of ten my angel will pull reasons out of the sky to avoid any consequence. For example she feels that she cannot finish her dinner because someone else’s back is hurting, so hers is in too much pain to finish her veggies.

I’ll admit that the excuses are adorable, and quite hilarious but of course we as parents have to refrain ourselves from laughing at moments like this. It wasn’t until this morning when my daughter and I were watching tv with her that I actually heard SpongeBob say “Im stuuuupid” in a episode where Patrick Starfish’s parents were coming to visit him. At that very moment my daughter and I looked at one another in shock and our looks confirmed we both heard the very same thing. We knew exactly what was about to come out of my daughters mouth and not even two seconds.. “See Mommy, I told you he says it”. Try explaining why it’s okay for a children’s program to say something you don’t want the viewer to say.

What monkey sees is what monkey does. Are you displaying proper behavior around you peers? Think about it, if my 4 year old daughter is clever enough to pick up that “it’s okay to do _____, because so and so does it” anyone can. When you are with company, at work, or anywhere for that matter make sure you take a look at your actions before you are so quick to judge why other people are doing something. Perhaps they are picking up some bad habits from you. It’s easier to have the mentality “Don’t do as I do, do as I say” rather than step up to the plate and take responsibilities for your own actions.

Before I go into the reasoning behind this blog let me give you a little history about myself. I was born and raised in Ft. Lauderdale for 19 years and moved up to NH because I felt that I wanted to become something bigger and being in my natural surroundings it would make it more difficult for me to take the necessary steps to changing the things I didn’t like about myself.

Now it’s been proven that you have the character traits of the 5 people you hang around the most, so if you’re friends are negative – you are more likely to become negative, if your friends are positive and successful- you are more likely to feed off their energy and take it to the top with them, so on and so forth.

I am so grateful to have the things that I’ve earned since my move to NH in November 04 and I honestly don’t think I would have achieved the things I did if I were to be back at “home”.  Recently I visit some friends from 5 years ago and for one reason or another they are EXACTLY in the same place as they were when I left. Some of course have better jobs, but they are still very content with the things that they have and have no motivation to reach for things that are on their wish list for example: a house, a better car, a plasma tv, etc. While down there whenever my friends and I went shopping or out somewhere they kept saying they would love to possess _____ one day and I asked what’s holding them back from getting it today they responded with a negative comment.

I remember being that very same person when I lived down south.

It’s amazing how much a person can really change themselves, their habits, their thinking, and basically flip their entire life around once they step out of their natural surroundings and make the effort to alter their life. I’ve been blessed at a young age to be able to accomplish my dreams because I’ve realized the power of influence.

“As long as you have strong will and a pulse, it’s never too late to change the things you don’t like about yourself and be the person you always dreamt of becoming” –Sica Martin

In no way shape or form am I trying to gloat or make myself out to be the “from rags to riches” kind of girl. The moral of the story is: Don’t ever let your friends dictate which direction that you want to go in. I’m not recommending everyone to make such a drastic decision to move or anything like that, but take notice at the things that you want and the crowd that you hang around with. Are your friends motivating you or holding you back? Are you doing what it takes to become your own personal hero and mentor? Think about that for awhile, and if you don’t like the answer that you seek always know that it’s never too late to change and be that person that you want to be.

You dictate your own future. You have control of waking up and making your dreams a reality. Only you can depend on yourself. The sooner everyone realizes this, the sooner we all can accomplish everything we’ve ever wanted to possess.

“If your why doesn’t make you cry then it’s not good enough.”

For every action there is a cause behind it. What is your reason for succeeding? Is it to keep your family off the streets? Really analyze your reason for getting out of bed every morning and doing whatever it is that you do.  Don’t say “Because I need money”. It can’t be money, it has to be something stronger than that. Every one needs money, we all know that. Really dig deep down inside and find your reason.

This week ask yourself: What is my motivation to succeed?

What does it mean to be unique? How can someone distinguish you from the millions of internet users? How are you being authentic to stand out from the rest? And more importantly, are YOU being the the person you would want to mimic if you were someone else?

Make a virtual footprint in others lives by being yourself, find out what ability you have to help others and pay it forward.

“To some degree, you control your life by controlling your time. ” ~Conrad Hilton

How do you control your time? What things could you enjoy if you delegated your tasks to a professional, think of the possibilities! Happy Tuesday to all!

Warrior Dash is only a month away and I am nowhere near prepared for the 5k run of hell on September 18th. For months I have been addicted to watching late night infomercials. Well, Insanity workout just so happened to be the one that caught my eye one particular evening and I made the mistake of saying out loud “Wow, I could do that work out in my sleep” TOTALLY KIDDING, because I knew some of the reps would be very, very challenging. Of course my hubby laying there next to me challenging what he thought I could do and probably would struggle with led to more tough talk. We had a great chuckle that night. That was until a late birthday present showed up and wouldn’t you know it! It was Shaun Thompson in a box ready to kick my ass.

Since I received the box my neck choked up and went stiff to the point where it was impossible to even reverse a car (convenient timing huh?) Well… the day is here where it is almost fully recovered and I do believe that tomorrow just might be the day that I open the case, pop the in the DVD, and finally walk the walk that I’ve been babbling about for months.

60 day challenge here I come. Ladies and Gentleman may I introduce you to my friend, my mission, my token to winning the Warrior Dash, and  my limbs worst enemy, Insanity.

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Yes, this is actual footage from my daughters 4th birthday party at BounceU.

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NASA sends a pair of monkeys into space to test the effects of launch and splashdown  of mammals

An earthquake hits the Russian town of Khabarovsk, killing 2000 people

John Paul II becomes the first pop to visit Great Britain

San Francisco’s Golden Gate Bridge opens to vehicular traffic

and the Archbishop of England decrees the marriage of King Henry VIII to Anne Boleyn to be valid.

What do all of these events have in common?

They all just so happen to fall on today’s date, May 28th. Take a wild guess what else happened on this day? But of course, my birthday! May 28th, 1985 at 9:07 am little “Sica Chu” was born into the world and became the person that would blog on her (stop doing the math people) twenty fifth birthday.

Twenty Five years of battling my own trials and tribulations, twenty five years of laughing, shouting, smiling, crying, growing, watching, skipping, sleeping, learning.. Twenty five years of wiggling my toes. Twenty five years of finding new ways to embarrass myself.  This could go on forever, but the point is twenty five years! TWENTY FIVE YEARS! When you sit down and think about it that’s a pretty darn long time! Half way to fifty, quarter to a century old! Now I’m sure this is no big deal to anyone but me but I’ve officially hit a milestone! As of today I can officially rent a car without any additional “under age” fees, I could go to a venue in the state of Massachusetts and purchase an adult beverage! By gosh golly I can do just about anything except for purchase life insurance for a flat rate from companies that require policy users to be ages 50 and up. Ohhh give it some time and I’ll blog about that, twenty five more years to be exact.

Am I ready to let the dogs out for the next 25 years? You bet your soft bottom I am!

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I am very proud of a special someone who is getting honored today for going beyond the call of duty many times, and is getting the Looking Beyond the Ticket Award! This event honors officers who took the time to look beyond the obvious to find criminal and drug activity during motor vehicle stops. He and a select handful of New Hampshire officers will be gathering around for a ceremony with the Governor, John Lynch today at noon.

Congratulations Officer, you amaze me with your courage, hard work, and bravery. I believe in you and know that you make a difference in everyone’s lives, including my own. From being in the longest deployed unit in Iraq to serving 6 years as an officer, you are my hero. You are an incredible person with undeniable strength and I am blessed to call you my better half.